Tiny homes obviously aren’t big on space. Add a large family to that small space and you’re vying for privacy for parents intimacy on skoolie or an RV.
Before Everette built this awesome door for our skoolie we just had a curtain hanging between us and the kids. You could easily see shadows thru the fabric if you weren’t careful…very much like backdrop lighting in a tent! But there are tactics for getting it on when traveling long term with kids…after all, where there’s a will there’s a way.
Having a real bedroom with a door, 4 walls and room enough to roll around on an actual bed seem to be real treats when you’re talking tiny homes. I’m not sure why since building the master bedroom with privacy for parents intimacy on skoolie isn’t difficult at all. It just takes a little forethought, planning & envisioning what the space is going to be used for.
Some skoolies and RV’s utilize murphy beds or other contraptions that require setting up each time you want to use the bed (such as putting the kitchen table down to make a bed). I was adamant that we weren’t going to do that on our skoolie. Been-there-done-that on sailboats. Its never fun being the one forced out of bed in the morning because you’re sleeping in Grand Central Station. Nor the last to fall asleep at night because everyone else wants to watch a movie, or visiting neighbours don’t take a hint to leave the premises. So one of our criteria when planning our sleeping arrangements was that all beds were permanently set up.
Although Everette and I are lovers of open-concept living space in a traditional home (with separate bedroom, thank you very much), I think its a no-brainer to put a real door in for sure while you still have kiddos living under the same tiny roof. Finding privacy is difficult. Securing some privacy is beneficial.
So now we’ve got an actual bedroom door that locks and gives privacy and a feeling of security. Not that our kids walk in on us any more; thank God they are grown past that. But still it makes me feel a little more secure…even if there still isn’t a great sound barrier, nor anything to stop any rockin’-n-rolling. At this point I figure we’ve done what we can, and the kids are just going to have to deal with whatever they imagine they hear.
Building the bedroom door is just one of the ideas for improving the intimacy for the parents.
Other Things to Consider
If you so choose you can insulate interior walls to cut down on the transference of noise.
You can provide a variety of white noise for when you’re doing the deed.
- have music playing
- have the younger kids settled down for a movie
- use the washer/dryer in your tiny home as a distraction. They might even help distract from any motion you’ve got sourcing from the bedroom!
Be sure you have head space in your bedroom. A common complaint about tiny homes is the master bedroom tucked too closely under a vaulted ceiling. On our skoolie we don’t have such a tight squeeze even without raising the roof like some people do.
Our Blue Bird has the motor at the back of the bus which results in a ledge intruding into the bus interior. We built our bed’s platform directly above that, extended a few more feet forwards so that we had plenty of storage built right in underneath our bed. We have 2 high-density foam mattresses stacked for our bed on top of the storage with a grand total of 38″ head space from the top of our mattress to the ceiling. Enough room for some frolicking.
The width is a different story. You can’t widen the skoolie; it is as wide as its going to get. Our bed is a queen size, and that’s about all the room we have side-to-side. We placed a cabinet on each side of our bed that intrude into the room basically leaving us just the width of our bed.
Here’s where you’ll find the importance of keeping your small space as uncluttered as possible for optimal sex-having. You don’t want your belongings, storage and clutter to be distracting you. You sleep & have sex (for the most part…likely) here, so keeping it clean and tidy helps create a more focused, intimate space.
Lighting can make or break a mood. We haven’t settled on any permanent lighting solutions yet, but you can see our solar lights that help set a romantic mood, along with what our master bedroom looks like overall in the video.
Difference Between Men and Women
No, I’m not going to discuss all the differences, making wild generalizations about the genders. But I’ll never forget hearing a couple talk about how women and men respond differently when they discover that their kids heard them doin’ it. She blushes with embarrassment while he struts his manhood, proud of the fact that their offspring know they’re still sexually active.
As for us…we’ll try and keep the volume down somewhat, but the kids will just have to get over it!
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