I don’t know about you but I am not known to be a morning person, and for the most part I never had morning rituals. Having lots of little kids over the years, you know how that goes…sleepless nights, kids ready to face the day long before you are, always feeling behind-the-eight-ball. Throw some clothes on, walk groggily to the coffee maker, peek thru droopy eyelids and pour yourself a cuppa joe (hopefully the timer worked, or your hubby made it for you!) Hug that hot mug like it’s your bestest friend you don’t want to leave you….and jump through hoops trying to appease those kids with their high demands for breakfast.
That’s just survival. Or so it seems. This is not the way to start a day successfully.
What we do in the morning is going to set the tone for the rest of our day. If we let it slip down crappy-lane, more than likely we’ll be attracting crappy events for the rest of the day, possibly all week. Grrrrr! Like when you (or the kids) spill the milk, you get down on the floor to clean it up and on the way back up you kick your toe on the end of the cupboard, putting your back out. You reach in the back of the fridge to pull out the yogurt container and inadvertently knock over somebody’s leaky sippy cup with OJ in it, which drips onto the bread bag (Ok, mine was Everette’s birthday and I was helping put some socks on our kids’ feet when I got up and stubbed the dining room chair putting my back out. I toppled over a piece of birthday cake, the kid cried, and I felt like crying too. Though not cause-and-effect, I realized within hours that I was getting a bladder infection, and Everette was heading out of town for the week. It seemed to me that hell had taken up residence in our townhouse.)
Even if things seem to get off on the wrong foot, or you’ve climbed out on the wrong side of the bed, you can pivot and change the apparent course of your day.
Better yet, instead of just letting life happen and watch the day unfold as it will (as I’ve basically done my entire parenting life…but NO MORE!) you can take charge and purposely influence how the day will pan out by implementing morning rituals.
Whether you’re traveling fast or slow, or back at base you can have a pretty standard morning ritual. If you’re less regimented like I am, I’m often finding a new twist on my morning routine. When on the Sea of Cortez on the S/V Sea Fern I would lay in bed thinking of how awesome my life was, then pack up our bed on deck and put it down below then usually jump in the ocean for a quick morning dip to feel the coolness of the water tantalize my skin. Then I’d climb out and drink my cold-brew coffee alongside Everette and watch the sunrise in the morning sky.
Back in a house on Lake Chapala (Jalisco, Mexico) I would light 3 apple-scented candles and watch their flickering light dance on the ceiling. I would set my intentions on my day and do some journaling before hopping out for a hot/cold shower.
Each place might lend itself to a new routine. But no matter where you are, here’s the basic 5 tips for creating an awesome day:
Do Something You Enjoy!
This doesn’t have to be something big, but think of one thing that makes you happy, and do that first thing in the morning. So if its drinking a hot tea & reading in the early morning before the household is awake, do that. If its a hot shower (alone, or with your partner) then jump in there to get your good-feelings pumping (end it on cold to get that circulation going…you’ll feel so alive!)
For me currently, its laying in bed listening to a meditation or chakra cleanse. I usually read a few pages in a personal development book before I climb out of bed, and then I always do my bathroom routine including tongue scraping and skin care regime, and more recently the inclusion of mirror-talk.
Don’t Peek at Your Phone
Why is it you’re hopping on the phone as soon as your eyes pop open? Is it to see how many Likes and Followers you have? Is it to check your email and see if so-and-so replied to you? Are you measuring your self-worth by the interaction you get online?
The earth will not stop turning and you won’t miss some important email by NOT looking at it first thing in the morning. Trust me, you won’t.
This can be a hard habit to break, I know. Once I started practicing not picking up my phone or jumping on my laptop I noticed that I felt more in charge of my day and how I felt about myself, rather than getting my esteem-boost (or not) from my online life.
Better than having your phone right by your bed at night is to sleep with it on the other side of the room from you. Or even in another room. This will help you with temptation, and its healthier to keep your electronics a safe distance from you sleeping all night long.
Using your phone as an alarm clock? Buy a clock you’ll be able to check with a glance rather than a phone you have to turn on…and then easily get tempted to peak at your Instagram account.
If you keep doing what you’ve been doing, you’ll keep having the life that you’ve got. I am assuming you’re reading this post because you’re hoping to change something in your life. You’ve got to make changes before you’re going to see big changes coming down the pipeline. These little things all add up. Start doing them and watch what happens!!
You’re an energy being. Lets get tapped into the energy and get it flowing at a high vibration!!
I start with at least 5 deep breaths. I either:
- inhale with count to 5, exhale with count to 5, and hold out-breath for count to 5.
- inhale with count to 5, hold in-breath for count to 5, exhale for count to 5
Then I silently say Thanks for at least 5-10 things I’m grateful for. For periods of time I journal it, until I don’t (one reason or other I get out of the habit).
Breathing and being thankful helps me feel peaceful and happy. It gets my energy flowing both physically and emotionally with a focus on my very breath and putting my thoughts onto something positive. Noticing even the smallest things to be thankful for will bring even more positive experiences into my day. Like begets like. When I focus on the good things it seems even more good things come my way, like a magnet. (The opposite is true, too. So if you’re thinking of how crappy your day is already be sure you’ll be noticing and drawing more crappy things into your day.)
Set Your Intentions
What are the top 1-3 things you intend to do today? What does your heart or intuition say you need to get done? They can be big or small, it doesn’t matter. But they are the few things that, when you get them done, you will know your day was success.
It could be that you want to give your child a hair cut, or play a game with them in the backyard. Maybe its that you want to snuggle with your partner before they head off for the day. Maybe its calling your best friend to meet up for coffee. Or getting that dreaded email edited and sent.
Whatever your #1 (or 3) intentions are, you’ll know the day has been great when its done.
This isn’t just a goals list. Along with acknowledging what your intentions are, its identifying what emotions you want to evoke with them. Because we aren’t really wanting a bunch of accomplishments. Its really the feeling we’re after. The feeling of accomplishment. The joy of relationships. The freedom of travel. Its the feeling it invokes in us that we want. So consider what your intentions are, and what feelings you envision you will feel when you’re done.
For example, if my intention is to take my teen daughter for a walk to McGregor Park today, the feelings I might be expecting is connection, camaraderie, gratefulness, vitality, and satisfaction.
If my goal is “I’ve published my ebook and its getting great coverage on social platforms and as a result I’ve now reached 5,000 subscribers!” I can expect to feel ecstatic, proud, grateful, a little giddy!
Big or small, think about how you want to feel afterwards. Linger in those amazing feelings for a little while. This is where you are setting the stage for your vibrations to be at a higher level. You’ll start attracting other high-vibrational things into your life. And this is the magic!
This may or may not be part of your intentions…it often is for me. It seems like a natural outgrowth from thinking of my intentions for the day.
Visualizing is a little mental activity, going through the events of the day as you anticipate them happening. How do you want them to play out? When you take the truck to the mechanics do you envision the bad news of needing extensive work and a huge bill? Or do you picture getting told it is just a little job and the truck will be purring like new?
You might visualize the kids actually getting along around the lunch table, having pleasant interaction rather than bickering incessantly. Maybe you picture a pleasant family read-aloud time in the evening. Maybe you’ve been called to a job interview and you can picture exactly how you want to present yourself and respond to questions, and anticipate being offered the job.
Whatever it is you want to take place…visualize it. Invoke those positive emotions you’re really seeking.
When we’re consistently mindful of the things that we are wanting to happen, and we attach high-vibrational thoughts and emotions to them, great things are about to happen. Make these 5 steps a daily practice and watch how your attention is drawn more and more to the positive things in your life, which just feeds more and more into higher vibrations, and so-on-and-so-forth. The wheels are rolling, and one great thing begets another great thing. Before you know it, you’re living the dreams you’ve been envisioning!
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